You finally meet and get some dates set up with a handful and realize most dates either end on a “nice meeting you” or “see you next time” and that rarely ends up in another meet up. Or perhaps you go on several dates and become friends…it doesn’t go anywhere sexually or romantically or it’s not the dynamic you had in mind. You’re confused because back in your hometown you would have coffee dates or activity dates and if they went well you’d meet again for a few more and seal the deal. Or you read western pick up literature that teaches a 3 date model and this too doesn’t seem to pan out in Seoul from your experience. Or perhaps you’ve been in Korea for a while with random success…..maybe made a girlfriend or two or a handful of hookups using the western model on dating Korean girls but the results are dismal and you might be wondering if there is another way or wondering what mistakes you might be doing in this culture completely foreign to your own.